LOVE and Stress have different neurochemistries …
we can invite love or desire by reducing a person’s stress levels.
The skin is the body’s biggest organ; it is very sensory.
LOVE is a mind-body thing
- Start with a clean, uncluttered space; warm and comfy to relax body and spirit.
- Natural fragrances, not artificial perfumes, are best. Some studies note popcorn, cinnamon, pumpkin pie and vanilla for men. Black licorice, patchouli, orange for women. A good quality candle or incense will work. Be safety conscious.
- Foods with soothing, succulent textures: chocolate truffles, chocolate covered strawberries, chocolate covered marshmallows, moist cake & whipped cream, …
- Indirect lighting.
- Music without lyrics is best; gets them out of their brain. Don’t risk playing a song that reminds them of another person or time. No music can be good for some, too.
- Relax and center yourself prior. Bath or Jacuzzi beforehand helps both.
- File your nails and do a palm scrub/wash with baking soda, sugar, …
- Choose your topical. Some drugstores sell massage oils in the Valentines isle.
Olive oil, Aquaphor, even Creamy Vasaline (dollar store) will work just as well. LESS IS BEST!!!! If your partner breaks out easily, don’t use products.
Massaging over clothes is a beautiful thing, too!
- You may want some large towels to put underneath. Oils are hard to wash out.
Anatomy for the Amorous
- The nervous system loves slow, repetitive, attentive pressure. It makes us feel safe. Everyone has some kind of baggage, tension, anxiety; think patience.
- Hands, feet, head/hair follicles, face, upper back are GREAT places to start.
Basically, avoid other bony areas. You can knead the fleshy areas.
- Use your own bodyweight. You’ll tire quickly reaching away from yourself.
- Trust your intuition. People have been nuturing & honoring with touch forever.